Post by annmarierusso on Sept 13, 2008 20:36:22 GMT -5
Annmarie Russo
English 2
Period 10
9/13/08
Is it enough for parents to tell their children to ignore the hurt and rejection? I have to say no because sometimes people can’t just simply ignore things like that for long periods of time. Children that don’t know anything about defending themselves or who are self-conscious have to find a way to feel good about themselves so that they can not let it get to them. Ignoring it doesn’t always make a difference. If the behavior continues, parents must help their child find a way to change the situation. The child might need to learn to speak up for themselves or learn how to not be in that type of situation before it happens. Belonging to a group or club can help them learn to be more outgoing and feel accepted for who they are. They may meet a friend they can to talk to about how they feel and realize that they are not alone. Therapy could help someone by teaching them to stand up for themselves, believe in themselves and how to deal with or accept any situation.
Should children/students who are shy and don’t easily integrate socially become tougher? To an extent they have to learn to not let things bother them as easily, but you don’t want to become to tough. They can then become the bully and do the same to another person to make themselves feel better and stronger. Being tougher does not help the student deal with any problems or insecurities they may have, it may just hide it. Being tougher doesn’t deal with any problem. Are they being picked on because they are shy and considered an easy target or because of someone else’s insecurities? Most of the time it is both. I do not understand why we can’t accept people for who and how they are. Each person has their own personality and that is what makes us individuals and unique.
Do parents and teachers have any responsibility to intervene when a child/student is hurt socially? Yes they do. “The teacher said I wish I could give you a better explanation, but the fact is, some kids are simply magnets for teasing. Other children see a weakness, and they exploit it.” (Picoult 72, 4-6) The teacher was wrong in believing and allowing this to happen. Children learn from example. If students in the class figured out that the teacher accepts this explanation for behavior then they know that they can get away with it because it is not their fault. Parents need to know to help their child understand the situation and figure out how to change it. Teachers need to know so that if they see it happening in the classroom or in the hallway they can put an end to it. Parents and teachers need to let the Administration know so they can observe it and correct the behavior. Parents and the Administration need to inform the offender’s parents to figure out a way to make it stop. Maybe there is something happening in their life to make the child/student act that way. If everyone is aware of what is happening then it is easier to recognize it and stop it from happening in the first place. There also has to be consequences for our actions both at home and at school.
Do peers? Absolutely. If a student sees an offender in the act they can step in and help the person and tell the offender to back off so the student wouldn’t be alone. You can turn peer pressure around on the offender. The more people who don’t accept that kind of behavior, the less people will behave that way. If as a group, unacceptable behavior is recognized and not tolerated, the less likelihood of anyone behaving against what is sociably acceptable. I feel people treat each other badly because they think their friends will think it is funny. Most people are cruel and pick on other people because they have their own insecurities and are trying to hide it. I think people should treat others how they want to be treated. If this was something everyone believed in from the beginning then maybe bullying would not exist. People would think twice about being mean, nasty, and hurtful if it was not sociably acceptable.
English 2
Period 10
9/13/08
Is it enough for parents to tell their children to ignore the hurt and rejection? I have to say no because sometimes people can’t just simply ignore things like that for long periods of time. Children that don’t know anything about defending themselves or who are self-conscious have to find a way to feel good about themselves so that they can not let it get to them. Ignoring it doesn’t always make a difference. If the behavior continues, parents must help their child find a way to change the situation. The child might need to learn to speak up for themselves or learn how to not be in that type of situation before it happens. Belonging to a group or club can help them learn to be more outgoing and feel accepted for who they are. They may meet a friend they can to talk to about how they feel and realize that they are not alone. Therapy could help someone by teaching them to stand up for themselves, believe in themselves and how to deal with or accept any situation.
Should children/students who are shy and don’t easily integrate socially become tougher? To an extent they have to learn to not let things bother them as easily, but you don’t want to become to tough. They can then become the bully and do the same to another person to make themselves feel better and stronger. Being tougher does not help the student deal with any problems or insecurities they may have, it may just hide it. Being tougher doesn’t deal with any problem. Are they being picked on because they are shy and considered an easy target or because of someone else’s insecurities? Most of the time it is both. I do not understand why we can’t accept people for who and how they are. Each person has their own personality and that is what makes us individuals and unique.
Do parents and teachers have any responsibility to intervene when a child/student is hurt socially? Yes they do. “The teacher said I wish I could give you a better explanation, but the fact is, some kids are simply magnets for teasing. Other children see a weakness, and they exploit it.” (Picoult 72, 4-6) The teacher was wrong in believing and allowing this to happen. Children learn from example. If students in the class figured out that the teacher accepts this explanation for behavior then they know that they can get away with it because it is not their fault. Parents need to know to help their child understand the situation and figure out how to change it. Teachers need to know so that if they see it happening in the classroom or in the hallway they can put an end to it. Parents and teachers need to let the Administration know so they can observe it and correct the behavior. Parents and the Administration need to inform the offender’s parents to figure out a way to make it stop. Maybe there is something happening in their life to make the child/student act that way. If everyone is aware of what is happening then it is easier to recognize it and stop it from happening in the first place. There also has to be consequences for our actions both at home and at school.
Do peers? Absolutely. If a student sees an offender in the act they can step in and help the person and tell the offender to back off so the student wouldn’t be alone. You can turn peer pressure around on the offender. The more people who don’t accept that kind of behavior, the less people will behave that way. If as a group, unacceptable behavior is recognized and not tolerated, the less likelihood of anyone behaving against what is sociably acceptable. I feel people treat each other badly because they think their friends will think it is funny. Most people are cruel and pick on other people because they have their own insecurities and are trying to hide it. I think people should treat others how they want to be treated. If this was something everyone believed in from the beginning then maybe bullying would not exist. People would think twice about being mean, nasty, and hurtful if it was not sociably acceptable.